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Momfidence! cheers on commonsense parenting and sighs at the rest. How to worry less, wing it more. A.k.a. parenting by the seat of my mid-rise mom jeans.
About Paula Spencer
I'm the author of Momfidence! An Oreo Never Killed Anybody and Other Secrets of Happier Parenting, and a mom of four in Chapel Hill, North Carolina (where you can't even buy Oreos at the two wholesome groceries nearest to my home).
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This Week's Lighten-Up-and-Eat-a-Cookie Award
May 06, 2009
A step-away-and-snarf-a-cookie order to any mom who feels her "caregiving identity" is threatened if a child who's hurt on the playground runs to Daddy first. That was an example given in a USA Today piece on moms who want shared parenting but feel threatened by changes in the conventional hierarchy of duties.
Says one mom giving the example: "My first reaction is, 'I hope the other mothers didn't notice because maybe they would judge me.' "
I'd judge all right...I'd judge the kid as lucky! Mine grew up calling indiscriminately for "Mommy" or "Daddy" when they were sick or hurt -- whoever was handy or was top of mind at the moment.
That's shared parenting and it's terrific. It's about the kids, not about you and what people think about you.